A Sensitive Man

Do you ever hear someone say they want a sensitive man? Well I have heard t often. And I am sure I have even said it myself at times...but as of late I have really been thinking about what these things we say, when we are talking about what we are looking for, really mean. I really, really think that, a sensitive man is not what I want. Really!
When I say sensitive...I think when it comes to men, what I really want and should be saying is awareness and respect.

You see, I know this nice guy, who is sensitive. He even really likes me, a lot! As I have been getting to know him better (besides thinking he may be too metro sexual for me) I am finding he is way to sensitive.

I don’t mind a man having sensitivity, or empathy but if it is in higher amounts I am just not sure I can feel anything but motherly feelings towards him. I am not sure I want to be desperately finding him Kleenexes for his very runny nose and he sobs and wipes his eyes on his tee shirt. I think what I've needed all along really is a man with awareness though....let me see if I can explain this.

See if I am watching a movie that is sad and I am crying...believe me! I am crying enough for the both of us. I think it is great for him to see that things like that bring out a tender side in me, but if he is crying too...well I think I would rather be watching the movie with my sister or a girl friend.

Now if he acts totally uncomfortable and insensitive because I am sobbing then that is a turn off too. What you want is a guy who notices (awareness) and reaches out to you...pulls you closer, gives you a hug or a squeeze and smiles (respect). Something that says! Hey girl! I love that you care about things enough to get a little choked up. “It is so cute!” “Or I am here for you baby!” Oh, and I am not talking about just a movie making me cry...Sometimes life (and even love) is a battle and a girl just needs to detox a little. I really do blame this on hormones by the way...but I’m not Mother Nature so I just accept it. This isn’t for me to alter.

Man, there is nothing like a man making you feel all safe and secure in his arms while you have a little moment. I know it sounds sappy but it is true! I have dated enough cave men that seemed so highly insensitive that I have found myself getting in that trap wishing someone understood better the way I see things.

What was I thinking??? Well I am not gay! Even though we are a stunning more attractive sex...generally speaking of course. I do not want to be with a woman. You know I love to commiserate and harmlessly flirt with my girlfriends (it is an ego boosting thing for us) and as much as having a gay man to talk too that is great at understanding all that stuff, there is not going to be a spark between either of us to save the planet from extinction any day, of any week, ever! Just saying!!!

And a girl needs to feel a spark sometimes! That is if she wants to be in a relationship with the man.

I remember my last boyfriend saying he has never cried in his life. Well I used to think...huh, really...that's not cool. A typical girl question I asked once was “well would you cry if I died?” Well...it only irritated him. He was most uncomfortable when he said “maybe...probably...oh, I don’t know!” Okay, Okay! Let me explain. I haven't changed my tune.

I am not saying now that a guy can’t shed a tear anymore if they want me to like them. I would prefer it. It means he is human! By all means I want him human!!! Aware of what a human experience feels like. Joy, pain, sorrow...all that stuff that I have to feel, excluding childbirth and the monthly losing my mind for a period of time thing of course. I mean in the least, can he have some empathy for me?

I am just not sure now that I want to see him ever sobbing like I would over a hallmark commercial. I think the composed seemingly indifferent man seems a lot more attractive to me as long as he is capable of crying when it really counts.

Yeah, So I am an old fashioned kind of girl deep down. I want to be successful and feisty and in my own power, but when it comes to being in relationship with a man I want him to be my hero and make me feel like he will be there to fight my dragons for me...even if that means he just holds me for a while and tells me it will be okay...just enough so I feel I have his love, respect and support. More than likely after I am done feeding off his strong masculine energy my tears will dry up and I will get my own sword out and fight the battle for myself. :)