Are you a good Witch or a Bad Witch?

I know that I usually write about guys and the things that drive me crazy but I have been saving up to do a blog about the creatures of my own gender...I say creatures because there are some woman you can definitely call that. It is like they aren’t even human some of them.

I get the compliment from men quite often that I am not like other woman...well good! I think! As long as it is a good way then I am fine with it...I am sure it is meant as a compliment because it is usually said by some poor guy who has been put through the wringer and he also thinks he is in love with me after one date.

Yes, I get that too! Kind of a turn off, just so you know...but more about that another time.

Woman can make me crazy, but I am not going to talk about the things they do that drive me nuts personally...this is about what I see and also hear about them doing to the opposite sex. On a side note....the only thing that baffles me here is that they usually always have someone to treat bad...why is that? When so many nice sweet girls do not have anyone and are alone???

So hmm...where to start? I mean really! There are so many things I can chew on here...

What is it with woman? Some of them think that their sole life’s purpose is to get exactly what they want not matter what it takes to get it and not care one bit about who it hurts. They are God’s greatest gift (in their mind) so it is like anything goes. Now I am not saying that men are right, and some aren’t selfish too but there is no reason for a lady to become a hag in handling men.

I mean really. I saw this poor young man and his new bride to be going through Target once with the wedding registry gun in hand and the future mother practically leading the way...the daughter says “oh, I want this!” Pointing to a duvet cover (I was shopping for sheets for my son) the groom to be said “why do you want that?” “Cant we just use a blanket?” Well you should have seen the dirty disgusted look the future mother in law gave him, then she rolled her eyes at her daughter and gave her the “What where you thinking when you go engaged to him look?” Then she proceeded to verbally demean him…which he just stood there and took. Future bride didn’t even stand up for him…they were young but if you love someone (I hope to hell you do if you are marrying them) then you should be sensitive to their feeling’s. And yes Men have feelings. SHOCKER!!! What! You didn’t know???

So first off…this boy (so to speak) he may put up with nasty-mother-in-law now but when he gets older...Hell No! (I always hear Will Smith in my head when I say that. He has the best “Hell No!” ever)
I mean really! As soon as the newness of the bedding down with your new-hot-wife wears off you’re not going to take crap like that from anyone. It is not worth it anymore… you’ve already jumped through the hoops (the ones that are a blaze with fire at the crazy circus)
The other thing is, and I have seen it before...either little missy-new-bride will always let mom run the show, or at some point she will become her momma. I mean really! Even when a girl doesn’t want to be her mom she is going to be on some level. So if a girl’s mom is a witch I know she has some serious witch potential too! Just saying!

Oh, and how can I forget! If a boy this age did know why she needed a Duvet Cover in the first place, either he is a son of an interior designer or he is gay! If he is gay then he shouldn’t be marrying her either.

I had this neighbor who used to demean her husband in public. She would tell everyone the stupid thing he did that morning or two days before and just go on and on. She would pull you into her “Ugly”(I call it the ugly) and I would be stuck there feeling really bad for her husband who would say nothing and just silently take it.

I knew without a doubt that this lady didn’t feel one bit good about herself so she had to find fault with everyone else and her poor hubby was the live-in-victim.
Do people not realize when they treat other this way they are wearing a sign that says “I really hate myself?”

Then there is the ex wife of my ex boyfriend. When I first started seeing him I sat back and listened. I knew that is was extremely common for a man to bad mouth his ex. Although he didn’t say the typical things I have heard, he didn’t have much nice to say. In fact he didn’t say much very often but when he did...oh man! I could read through the lines the red-raw-deep-hurt in there, and yes...He never was a guy that would cry but do not kid yourself, he felt things quite deeply...so much so he will not forgive easily.

I sat back and watched as I always do (I always give them a lot of rope to hang themselves) and tried to give the situation a fair observation. In this case I found out she is exactly what he said and then some. I am not saying his manner never contributed when they were married he hates conflict and will avoid it as much as possible which probably makes a conflict seeker more upset...but that woman is a beast.

She lies, steals and cheats. Buys her kids off to stay with her on his weekends and then dumps them on him at the last minute on her weekend every now and then because she wants to go play. When I meet him he had not seen his kids for a year, except for one hour at Christmas. It was because of my encouragement and telling him when we first had started dating that he needed to fight for his rights that he went back to court to get his rights back. I remember the day he got them after a year apart how proud he was to introduced them to me. It still makes me cry when I think about it.

He is a good man and a good father but he was sick of the abuse. She told him she would make his life a living hell for leaving her (she made more money than him???) and that “No one leaves her!”
Man! No wonder he has commitment issues!

I never understood this because I always wanted to be a good enough wife that my man would never want to lose me...to me that is logical...course by saying that I may have just revealed that it was me that filed for divorce in my situation... ;)


She treated him like garbage and I got to see first hand when we were dating and through their boys.
She lies to the kids to try to make them hate their dad and doesn’t care one bit about the psychological damage she is causing. As long as she can have what she wants, it doesn’t matter! She has another new boyfriend. How can new boyfriend not see this I wonder?

Their sixteen year old son and I are quite close now and so we have had many a talks about it. He told me that she had them convinced for that whole year that their dad left them and hated them...I mean really!! How sick is that???

In fact it was with my exes son, that I saw how young this stuff starts. He had this little girlfriend right around age 13 (three years back) who he just adored. She found out he was cutting and went to the school counselor to tell her.
The school counselor called me because he told her he couldn’t talk to his parents. I talked to him about it and then all of the sudden became his support system...sort of. He didn’t tell me everything. He is still a boy!

His little girlfriend would call all concerned about him and tell me what was going on all the time and then as some point it got out of hand. She started ripping on him with her friends, saying things like she hated him and such…then she would text me and say...oh, I feel so bad. He is mad at me. Well what he was a mess! Back then if he had killed himself I would not have been surprised. I felt like I was holding on to something as tangible as the wind. I never felt so desperate to help someone.

His whole world fell apart when his parents got divorced and they were still so caught up in the battles and the pain that they couldn’t see how bad this was hurting him...on top of that some stupid girl was telling him he was worthless.

I asked her “what she was trying to do by treating him like garbage?” I told her that “even though girls seem to think otherwise, that boys are not lab rats in which to practice emotional terrorism on.”

I told her to leave him alone now since she wasn’t his friend anymore. He would never trust her after the games she played. If he came around he had to on his own. You cannot be mean and then just say sorry and think it will fix it. A man in not a light switch you can turn on and off...well at least not in that area. :)

I wasn’t quite that direct but real close...

She started this whole feeling sorry for herself thing and said that she felt like killing herself now or changing schools. She tried to blame me for her feeling badly. I told her she was the only one who was responsible for her own feelings and actions. I told her that I still thought she was a very pretty, cute girl but that she needed to care about being pretty and cute on the inside or she was going to keep repeating the same patterns and there was no way she would feel good about herself if she continued.

I reminded her that she hurt someone terribly, so I didn’t understand why she came to me (because she came to me to ask my opinion) and would expect me to tell her what she did was right. I told her I couldn’t tell her it was okay. When it wasn’t and she knew in her heart it wasn’t. I told her to take the experience and learn from it and that I hoped she could feel better and be happy again.

I have never understood this mentality yet I see it every day in people...and I see it starts so young!

Then you have the woman who uses sex to hook their man and then they marry them expecting him to take care of them in every way, without ever taking care of his needs, the home he provides or even the kids they have together sometimes.

I realize that some men use our weaknesses and vulnerability’s against us but, Girls! We should be smart enough to not to allow ourselves to do it right back. When we treat men poorly it makes us ugly and disgusting inside and at some point you won’t be worth it to them anymore.

I always am sad to see a hot chick treat a guy like crap, because he will only put up with it as long as she looks like eye candy. As soon as she isn’t pretty on the outside or the sex stops the fascination will be gone...if you are pretty inside that will create a feeling and desire for you within your man that can last forever.

Girls if you won’t be fair to them please don’t waste years of their lives...your wasting years of your own life holding yourself back from being something great and amazing too...It is in the giving of ourselves that we find our greatest self.

Relationships are more about the giving then the getting…if you can’t deal with that then maybe it isn’t for you. I am talking about the giving of respect here which you can’t put a price on.